Advice Columnists Offer Guidance on Dealing with Difficult Guests

Annie Lane suggests open communication and mutual understanding to address negative behavior at social events.

A host expresses concern over a friend's negative and bossy behavior at social events, seeking advice on how to address the issue.
The friend in question has faced mobility challenges and values social gatherings, yet her behavior has caused discomfort among other guests.
Advice columnist Annie Lane recommends having an honest conversation with the friend, highlighting the importance of expressing appreciation for her presence while addressing specific behaviors.
Lane emphasizes the opportunity for the friend to share her perspective, potentially unaware of how her actions are perceived.
The goal is to find a solution that respects both the friend's feelings and the comfort of other guests, fostering open communication and mutual understanding.